We have just returned from a refreshing couple's weekend retreat at Rowe Conference Center in Rowe, MA. Fourteen couples varying in age from late 20's to late 70's, and two leaders who have been married for 35 years, helping hundreds of couples in their work as therapists. Despite the hectic nature of our full lives, replete with responsibilities, deadlines, and countless errands and chores, this time of retreat and reflection was most needed.
We spent a blessed 48 hours without computers, cars, money, stores, dogs, household chores, bills, or telephones, and concentrated on the most basic unit of inquiry---ourselves in relation to one another. We come home with new tools of reflection and communication, and a renewed sense of who we are as a couple and where we would like to go, figuratively speaking.
On this eve of a holiday ostensibly and allegedly created by corporations, we honor the underlying spirit of love and commitment that binds us together now for more than 15 years. Marriage as a spiritual practice could sum up the notion that I come away with most clearly this evening as I hesitantly integrate back into daily life.